Book Number One:
Right From Birth: Building Your Child's Foundation for Life by Dr. Craig Ramey and Dr. Sharon Ramey takes you through a child's life from birth to 18 months of age.
The book is divided into two sections :What we have learned and your baby's development
The first section discusses scientific studies in relation to your baby's life. Chapters include topics like building trust, language development, sensory development, and intelligence. The last chapter outlines seven essentials to guiding your child's every day life. These seven essentials are: encourage, mentor, celebrate, protect, rehearse, communicate, and guide.
The last section breaks down milestones in different age ranges based on month. It suggests toys, discipline, and other things based on the seven principals. The seven principals are outlined in a chart at the end of each chapter along with suggestions for age appropriate activities to live out these seven essentials.
My thoughts: This book is not worth buying. It was hard to read through because it was very basic even though it included scientific studies to back up their beliefs. The seven essentials are great, but they are vague and obvious. Of course as a parent you need to encourage, mentor, celebrate, rehearse with, communicate, protect, and guide your child. That's a given. The last chapters for each break down of age is good since most books usually cover child development up to the age of three. But you still get the same break down in those other books.
Second book: Discipline: the Brazelton Way by Dr. Brazelton and Dr. Sparrow
The beginning of the book discusses touchpoints or behaviors associated with different age groups. The second chapter talks about parent's own experiences with discipline and how they should interpret what their child's behaviors mean. The third chapter discusses types of discipline broken down into what you should try, what is sometimes helpful, and what doesn't work. The last chapter goes through common misbehavior problems and ways to deal with them.
My thoughts: When I first read this book, I thought it would be boring like the first book. The touchpoints were things that I had read in other books about children's behaviors or milestones. And the second chapter, which was a little better, was like all other books on discipline. Meaning how do parents cope with what they learned about discipline as children and apply it or don't apply it to their own child. But the last two chapters make the books totally worthwhile and for 10 dollars brand new. Heck, I'll probably buy my own copy just for those two chapters alone.
Chapter three: covers a wide range of disciplinary things that you can try allow with pros and cons of each technique. Here they are:
Things to try: warnings, silence, time-out (in room, chair, or corner), doing something over again the correct way, reparations, forgiveness, planning, or humor
Sometimes useful discipline strategies: taking away toys, canceling or postponing playdates and other pleasurable activities, no tv or video games, ignoring misbehavior, leaving the scene, extra chores, and docked allowance
Things not to use as discipline: spanking/smacking, shame/humiliations, soap mouth washing, comparing to another child, withholding food or using food as a reward, early bed time/extra naps, withdrawal of affection or threat of abandonment,
I love the fact that they are broken down this way and that they all contain the pros and cons so that if you are using a particular disciplinary technique and it's not working you can look in the book to see why it might not be optimal to use or is not being used correctly for that situation.
The fourth chapter gives basic disciplinary problems and ways to work those problems out that are age appropriate. For example: tantrums for a two year old are discussed and should be handled differently than say a child who is five
Here are the common disciplinary problems listed: always looking for attention, begging and whining, biting, bullying, cheating, defiance, disobedience, lying, power struggles, running away, separation problems, sibling rivalry, "spoiled" child, stealing, swearing and toilet talk, talking back, tantrums, tattling, and teasing.
This is an excellent book and is well worth the ten dollars to use as a reference.