Today I went to my BSG (breastfeeding support group). He hasn't really gained any weight. I've heard that this happens, but it still makes me nervous. The nurse suggested trying to increase his daytime feedings since he does fine at night. He also doesn't flip anymore. I think he just doesn't want to. His latest obsession has been grabbing things. He can hang onto his feet. And of course now my hair has a permanent dent in it and has morphed into hair ties. One day I'd like to put my hair down. I even have to wear it up when sleeping; it's just easier than looking for a hair tie in the dark while sleepy. *sigh*
Okay, switching topics. I had discussed a while back that I would write up a list of things that I felt was most important for HB to learn.
1) To develop a relationship with God. I plan on raising him Catholic, but I'm realistic. I would rather him decide to be Catholic instead of feel like there is a mounting pressure for him to be so and then rebel later in life. That was the policy my parents had, and my brother and I are still Catholics.
2) To learn to respect all life. I've discussed a lot of my political views before about being anti-abortion, anti-death penalty, anti-euthanasia, a pacifist, etc. I also am really big into respecting the life on our planet that isn't human, and that's something that I want to pass onto him. But I believe that this something he has to see; it just can't be said but lived. That's why I don't plan on practicing spanking. My husband and I every once in a while have discussions about this. We were both spanked as children, and it taught me nothing. Hubby doesn't want to rule it out entirely, but I do. I don't think that it's a good and respectful form of discipline. I just can't imagine explaining to HB that we respect others and their bodies so we can't hit people. Then I turn around and hit him on the butt for something he does wrong. People tell me that their children know the difference, but I didn't as a child so I feel that it's unreasonable for him to know that it's different. And a lot of countries outlaw it at home including Spain, Venezuela, Austria, New Zealand, Iceland, well you get the idea. But I'm getting off track. Basically I want him to learn how to respect others because he was respected by his parents. And I don't expect him to behave the way he does, if his parents do not behave this way as well.
3) Education and work ethic. My parents' policy was to get as much education as you can. This didn't work out for me and my brother. We don't have masters or doctorate degrees. I believe that education is important but if you want to run a restaurant you don't need a doctorate. My policy is work hard and get the education that you need to follow your dreams. If that means going back to school once you've figured that out, then that's fine. Go back packing in Europe for a while after high school or join the peace corps. Enjoy exploring the possibilities and opportunities of life. But work hard at what you do. Don't just slack off, which is something some college students do because they can't decide what to do with themselves. Also take pride and respect in what you do; don't do something that you can't tell your family about. Most people don't work by themselves. Courtesy of others in your place of work is important.
4) Family or no family. That decision is up to him and God. If he does decide to have a family, I don't expect him to think that running out on them is an option. His ultimate responsibility will be to his family (I hope).
I really can't think of anything else. Things like being healthy (eating right and not doing drugs), could fall under respect for yourself category, which is also important. And learning to live with only what you need, is something that falls under respect for life because we shouldn't hog all the resources of the world. I'm really stumped. Perhaps someone has a thought of their own. And now to get hubby to compile his own list and then compare.