When I was little I wanted to be a nun. Well, I mostly liked covering my head with a piece of random fabric. Nuns were the only people that I knew who wore a veil outside of weddings and your 1st communion. I thought veils were cool. I thought the clothes were cool so I wanted to be a nun. My dad told me that I wouldn't be a nun. So I didn't become a nun.
Later as I got older, I realized that some of the Baptist churches that I went to with friends and family had women (mostly older) wearing elaborate hats in various colors. This was especially true during the Easter season. I also knew that some of the more plain Christians would also cover their heads.
Growing up, I had no idea that there was a Catholic tradition of wearing a veil unless you were getting married, a nun, or for 1st communion. No one wore a mantilla or anything like one to Mass. My mom converted to Catholicism in the 70s so she never wore one and didn't own one. My Catholic grandmother died when I was 10. I don't remember her wearing a veil, but then again she didn't go to Mass because of her health. As far as I know she didn't own one back then, because I never inherited it. I have her rosary beads but no veil.
I went to Mass forever thinking that women didn't wear veils to Mass. Until my life was in a state of limbo. I stopped working and was pregnant. Bored and unable to do a whole lot, I turned to the internet. I found a number of Catholic moms who unbeknownst to me, veiled. What they veiled? I started digging and discovered that in the Latin Mass you normally veiled. This was something that was "lost" in the Novus Ordo Mass of today. It's making a comeback and in a big way. Last year in September, I started to take up headcovering.
At first it was more of an experiment, I covered my head at Mass and privately around friends and other groups. I ended up dropping the privately part because it got be too difficult to explain the new change. I became in essence a part-time headcoverer. At first the process was weird. Hubby made references to me being his Amish wife or Mennonite wife. I was afraid of being stared at or thought to be proud. I still knew that this was something that I needed to try and stick out. It was a part of my faith. Now that I'm married and have a child, it needs to be important. Orthodox Jewish women begin covering when they marry. I started when I became a mom.
A year later, I know that I need to step things up a notch. I need to "pray more" as God has instructed me to do, but I can't stand praying with a naked head anymore. It's awkward and wrong. I ordered some convertible headcoverings that look modern. They haven't come in yet. Attempts to wear headbands during the day have resulted in headaches. So I haven't yet gone full headcovering out.
I've discovered that you don't have be a Mennonite to cover your head. You can wear something fashionable and modern to still be covering your head. I can pray wherever I go and whenever with something on my head. It feels right and better somehow. Plus I act different. I'm nicer and better behaved although that could because I'm at church.
Here's my stash so far:
The top part is all winter/fall. The bottom is summer/spring.
Top (left to right): white shawl, long navy blue cashmere shawl, purple/bluish knit hat, black knit hat, blue/black rectangle scarf, black music notes square satin scarf, white music notes square satin scarf, flower print satin scarf
Bottom (left to right): fisherman's hat, black bandanna, white bandanna, pink snood, brown snood, black tie-able mantilla, beige convertible bandanna/headband, white headband, black headband, gray headband, green headband
My favorite is the black tie-able mantilla. It has ties to it and made with love from Garlands of Grace. I don't like the black and white bandanna because they make me look like a housewife or a maid. The white and black headbands I made myself. The snoods are great for fall weather, which we aren't having right now, or for windy days. When I wore my blue shawl to Mass, I got weird looks. Nobody is bothered by the mantilla.
What's in your headcovering stash? Mine's big enough that it has it's own drawer.