Obviously I don't have infertility issues. So when I say these things, keep in mind that I haven't walked a mile in those shoes. I can't imagine how infertile couples must feel. But...and there is always one...I get a little upset when people take their fertility or infertility as burdens. Let me explain.
I went to visit my inlaws in late June. There was a big party being thrown for my husband's grandfather. A lot of people showed up. Practically the whole town was invited. And I was introduced to one of the neighbors. Hubby mentioned something about us wanting our children close together in age, and the lady said something similar about her own grandchildren. But then she said "Yes, my children need to start thinking about having another one soon. They had to use IVF for the first one. Terrible thing not being able to conceive children naturally. IVF is so wonderful" or something to that effect. I can't remember the exact wording.
Now I'm a Catholic. Maybe not the best. (Okay far from the best). And I do understand infertility sucks. But...I didn't know what to say to this woman except to murmur something about IVF being expensive. Was it my place to talk about how intrinsically evil IVF is? Can I look this older lady in the eye and tell her that children are a gift from God and man shouldn't mess with that? I decided since we were strangers it would be better not to get into a battle of theology. Clearly she approved of IVF and clearly I don't.
IVF is evil because it's making embryos outside of the body and then reinserting some of them. If the pregnancy takes, two things can happen: the remaining embryos or unborn children are destroyed once the person decides that they have enough children and/or multiple children are conceived thus running health risks to both the babies and the mother. Some moms elect to reduce their pregnancy. In other words, they elect to abort one of the embryos in order to have a safer pregnancy.
Killing people in the name of wanting a child is murder. I don't know any other way to describe IVF.
Yet, I understand the pain these infertile couples feel and since society promotes this evil, it's easy to see it as an option. I find it funny that a number of pro-lifers don't see the connection between abortion and IVF.
The same thing can be said about other methods of conceptions such as artificial insemination and surrogacy. While they don't destroy lives like IVF, they do affect the child. It's also playing God. But to make matters worse, the people who turn to these methods really shouldn't be conceiving children anyway because they are homosexual or single. Children need two parents. There are too many studies out there saying that to argue otherwise.
So while I usually spend an awful lot of time getting onto people about their fertility, I can say that I've been there. I will get off this soap box because in this situation, I haven't. Suffices to say that if you are an infertile couple there are a number of routes to go. NaPro is supposedly very effective.
Here are some good sources:
Great blog post by Jennifer Fulwiler on the subject
The Cross I Embrace Blog-which a number of people talk about but there are other bloggers who also chronicle their infertility journey
NaPro Technology page