7 “Do not judge, or you too will be judged. 2 For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.3 “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4 How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.
This is the most often quoted or semi-quoted verse to say that religious persons are being overly critical. The problem is that we're called not to judge people but to judge actions. We cannot honestly say Hitler is in hell, yet we can without a doubt condemn the genocide. That's the distinction. Furthermore people forget this little tidbit that follows after.
6 “Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.
We're called not to judge yet here we are called to.... judge? As I said before, you can judge an action of a person to be wrong "dogs, swine" people who are unclean ie doing unclean things. But you cannot judge a person ie condemn them to hell. N'es pas?
Then there's this one:
11 “No one, sir,” she said.
“Then neither do I condemn you,” Jesus declared. “Go now and leave your life of sin.”
So here the argument is that Jesus does not condemn the sinner, and so we should cover our eyes and let things go on as before? Ah, no. We do not condemn the sinner to a life of hell fire, but we are called to tell sinner to "Go and leave your life of sin" or "Go and sin no more."
And more to the point we are called to do the following:
1 John 5:16
So this whole non sense about "not judging" meaning do not speak out against things like abortion and in sometimes un-sugar coated ways is a lot of horse hockey. It only means that 1)we need to forgive and accept a repentant heart 2)not condemn a person to hell but rather pray for their soul 3)repeatedly and fervently tell that them that their actions are wrong, immoral, evil, (insert synonym here) 4)and if this thing is occuring with someone who supposedly a Catholic we should treat them as a non-Catholic.
To do otherwise, would be uncharitable.